After several months of struggling with my feelings, I finally asked my wife for a divorce last night. It was the absolute most difficult thing I’ve ever done. But the fact is, while I care for her very much, I am not “in love” with her anymore. It is not fair to either of us to stay in this relationship; she deserves the chance to find the right person for her (as do I). As long as she’s married to me, that can never happen.